Today we would like to feature two posts from a an excellent blog named “Adoptive Black Mom: Tales from an Adoption Journey.”
Thoughts On Being Average
In this down to earth post, a mother wrestles with the reality of being an average parent.
On the outside, adoption is rainbows and sparkles. On the inside, it can be very dark and tumultuous. Folks rarely gets to see what happens behind closed doors where everyone is fighting for survival. I do my best to fight with my daughter instead of against her. I fight for her. I try to apply every lesson I learn. I replay every family squabble to assess how I could handle it better. I try to provide every possible resource that I can access and afford. I problem solve as much as I can. I try my very best to be a good parent to Hope.
And if I’m lucky, I’m average. That’s real, and that’s ok.
You can read the whole thing here.
In this post, a mother considers how comparison games can undermine parenting.
Of course, sometimes I torture myself by thinking I’m lucky that Hope doesn’t act out the way other kids do. How great is it that we haven’t had to go through some of that stuff! Then I feel guilty because it minimizes what I know goes on in Hope’s head and heart, and how that affects us each and every day of our lives together.
In sport parenting, I don’t win or lose, and frankly, I’m not sure which one is which. The other things I often find myself wondering is: Why the devil am I trying to compare our experiences to that of other families anyway?
You can read the whole post here.